Uvalde, Columbine, Pulse. All these events rocked our community and cause us to feel knocked off balance. We don't know what to think, get upset and start advocating for change, and search for a way to feel normal again. After Uvalde, several parents started looking again for ways to talk to their children about such tragic events. In this blog, I put together three tips for how to talk to your kids before and after such events. If your child is directly impacted by such an event, it is strongly recommended that you seek professional therapy or counseling services to assist them and you process through these feelings.
Because Uvalde was fairly recent and the inspiration for this blog, let’s start with how we talk to our kids AFTER these tragic events. Top three tips for doing this is:
Above we covered what to do AFTER the event has happened, now let's get ahead of things. let's talk about how do we start the conversations at home BEFORE these tragic events happen. Top three tips for doing this:
Below you can find the links to a Three Part Mini Series I hosted on my YouTube channel where I discuss these tips in more detail:
If you really enjoyed these tips and want more, here are a few resources you can check out:
While I focused on the three common tips I felt most important for before and after tragic events, this verywell article discusses these tips and many others in far more detail. It also offers guidance in how to prepare for talking with your children. The article explains how having these conversations with your children can increase their ability to speak up early, possibly preventing a tragic event.
This site discusses how to interpret silence and how to listen for the unsaid information. They also give suggestions on how to correct inaccurate information.
Both these last two articles offer great tips on how to help your child manage the distress these events and drills can cause.